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Most days, you’ll find me driving my kids around, watching Real Housewives, cussing at the pile of laundry that never ends and laughing at the hilarious things my kids do. I am always ready to hop in the car and find my next adventure, even if it’s just Target.

I thought I had life figured out until my daughter Remy was born 7 years ago. She came into this world as perfect as can be but then everything changed. When she was 9 months old, she had seizure that would change her life in a way I could never have imagined. From hospital stays, developmental delays, a diagnosis of autism and rare form of epilepsy called PCDH19, I didn’t have the kind of tools I needed to navigate the world of special needs parenting.

About Me

Most days, you’ll find me driving my kids around, watching Real Housewives, cussing at the pile of laundry that never ends and laughing at the hilarious things my kids do. I am always ready to hop in the car and find my next adventure, even if it’s just Target.

I thought I had life figured out until my daughter Remy was born 7 years ago. She came into this world as perfect as can be but then everything changed. When she was 9 months old, she had seizure that would change her life in a way I could never have imagined. From hospital stays, developmental delays, a diagnosis of autism and rare form of epilepsy called PCDH19, I didn’t have the kind of tools I needed to navigate the world of special needs parenting.

The Podcast

In my podcast, you’ll hear raw and vulnerable insights into the world of special needs parenting. I cover topics that parents face raising children with neurological disabilities.

With a mix of inspiration, honest stories and actionable tips; my goal is to help you realize your power to be the parent you always dreamed, even if that’s in a different package than you expected.

Your child’s here to change the consciousness on our planet.  You hold the key to help them shine their amazing light into this world.

LEARN MORE ABOUT THE PODCAST

The Podcast

In my podcast, you’ll hear raw and vulnerable insights into the world of special needs parenting. I cover topics that parents face raising children with neurological disabilities.

With a mix of inspiration, honest stories and actionable tips; my goal is to help you realize, you have the power to be the parent you always dreamed, even if that’s in a different package than you expected.

Your child is here to change the consciousness on our planet and you hold the key to help them shine their amazing light into this world.

LEARN MORE ABOUT THE PODCAST!

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Don't be afraid to share your story because of what someone might say on the internet.⁠
⁠
You want to share your truth, but something stops you. ⁠
⁠
Fear.⁠
⁠
Fear that someone might judge you. Fear that someone might say something. Fear that your story isn't good enough, or you won't have the right words. Fear that someone isn't going to like you.⁠
⁠
 Do you know why I'm saying this? Because every day I see the DM's ⁠
⁠
"I'm so scared to talk about my journey. I don't want people to judge me. I'm not really good at writing. I don't have the right terminology. I don't want to offend anyone. I don't want people to hate me."⁠
⁠
Someone (a lot of someones) needs to hear what you have to say. Someone right now is struggling with the exact thing you've gone through. Someone right now, at this very moment, is hoping they arent alone. Someone right now is about to give up and needs to know they can do it. ⁠
⁠
Can you imagine if you had a cure for cancer but didn't want to give it to a dying patient because you were scared they might not like your shoes? Or because you didn't brush your teeth? Or that you delivered the cure in a brown paper bag?⁠
⁠
Um, the answer is NO. They wouldn't care about any of those things. I promise you, with all of my heart, they would do nothing but thank you. ⁠
⁠
IF someone said something nasty to you after you shared your heart, just remember this. ⁠
⁠
 Hurt people, hurt people. ⁠
⁠
Their comment says more about them than it does about you. ⁠
⁠
Wayne Dyer has this analogy that I love. ⁠
⁠
 If you squeeze an orange, what would come out? ⁠
⁠
Orange juice, of course. ⁠
⁠
Would lemonade come out? How about Diet Coke?⁠
⁠
Of course not. ⁠
⁠
Orange juice comes out because that's what's inside. ⁠
⁠
So if you're worried about what someone might say, they will say what's inside them—nothing more, nothing less. ⁠
⁠
 There's someone who NEEDS to hear YOUR story. Who needs to know they aren't alone. ⁠
⁠
I dare you to share. Even when you're scared. ⁠
⁠
 Have you ever worried about getting judged online? ⁠
⁠
Save this post for the next time your scared to post your story. You've got this⁠
⁠
⁠
You know why you were tagged in this post?

Because someone wants you to know that you are incredible. 

You may not realize it, but you are an inspiration. 

Even when you feel like you're at the end of your rope. Even when you feel like you weren't cut out for this autism mom life. 

People around you are inspired by you. 

How you stay up all night just to rock your child.

How you drive across town to find that one milkshake from that one restaurant. 

How you just know what your child is saying even when they aren't telling you. 

How you research and find the very best therapy instead of watching TV or going out with your friends. 

How you question the doctors when they dismiss your concerns. 

How you cancel your vacation because your child doesn't feel good. 

How you sit and watch your child sleep before you even have dinner. 

How you send a message to another mom who's struggling just to tell her it's going to be ok. 

How you make your child a totally different meal because you know he doesn't eat what you're eating. 

How you worry if your child will make friends. 

How you would die for your child in a drop of a hat.

You're sensational. 
 
I've never seen a person love someone so hard. 

How do you do it?

I want you to know that even though it may feel lonely sometimes, there's someone (me) who thinks you are doing a  pretty damn good job. And your kinda-sorta incredible.  

Keep being amazing. You're doing great. 

Now if you haven’t done so already, tag your friend who needs to know that she’s pretty spectacular

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#specialeducationteachers #autismspectrumdisorder #autisticgirl #autismparent #autismawareness #mentalhealth #supportautism #autismmama #autismadvocate #autismfamily #autismmotherhood #mom #autism #specialneedsmom #sped #autismmommy #teacher #autismmoms #adhd #specialeducation #asd #specialneedsfamily #momslife #specialneeds #spedteacher #speechtherapy #autismsupport #autismkids #autismmom #autismlove
Do you ever see another child and wish your child was that smart? Or that athletic? Or that outgoing? Or that... Normal?

If only Remy could talk like Madison. Or make friends like Emma can. Or tell me about her day, Just like Riley. 

Moms do this all the time. But special needs moms take it to another level. We don't just compare our kids to neurotypicals, we do it with other special needs kids as well. 

When Remy was first diagnosed with autism, she went to a specialneeds playgroup. I looked around at the kids singing at circle time. Remy didn't participate. She was running around the room, knocking over all the toys from the shelves. She climbing on the table throwing crayons. 

I thought, "I wish she were like the other kids. She's got more challenges than any kid in here."

I didn't want to feel that way but I did. 

I just wanted Remys life to be easier. Because the pain of their struggle hurts too much. 

So let me tell you something I do now when thoughts of jealousy come up for me. 

I recognize that voice in my head saying "I wish Remy could (fill in the blank)" and turn it around by sending a silent blessing. 

"I'm so glad Emma is able to sit quietly with her mom. Maybe one day Remy will do that too. I'm so excited that Alyson joined the soccer team. Makes me wonder if that's possible for Remy one day. "

And when I start to feel envy of a neurotyoucal child who just learned how to read at age 3, I say "wow, Sydneys so smart, I hope she grows up to be a doctor who treats medically fragile children. I hope one day she becomes a scientist and studies autism and how to improve autistics lives"

Sending blessings and doesn't come naturally. You have to force those thoughts. And the reminder to do so, comes the minute you start to feel envious. 

And when you do this enough times, you start to see other kids gifts as blessings and you start to see the strengths in your own child too. 

This special needs mom stuff isn't easy. There's a lot of feelings and struggles to work out. But taking little baby steps at a time will become big mountains you'll have climbed. 

so next time you feel envious, send a blessing 

Do you struggle with this too?
I want to introduce myself and tell you a little about who I am and why I'm here on Instagram in this way. 

I am half black and half white. I was raised by my white grandparents and grew up in a house and community where I was always the different one. 

I never quite fit into any group. And got used to people trying to "figure me out."

Constantly feeling like an outsider, I grew to have an immense amount of empathy for people who were different. 

I connect to people who don't feel like they quite fit in. 

Fast forward to motherhood, I had 2 boys and was a typical mom doing the typical mom things. 

Then baby Remy was born. Anything but typical. She had a seizure when she was 9 months old  doctors scratching their head. Never seen a child who rejected all the medication and had hundreds of seizures at a time. 

After doing testing, they discovered she had a rare seizure disorder called pcdh19. 

Reading the prognosis online, I was shattered. This was going to be a lifelong disorder.

I blamed God for giving me a child that I had to watch suffer over and over. I thought He was cursing me. 

After 3 years of weekly seizure cluster and an autism diagnosis, I didn't know how I was going to survive the trauma. 

I didn't want to get out of bed and felt like I was living in hell.

I decided to go on a spiritual journey to Help me process the struggle. 

I realized, I needed to let go and surrender. To stop resisting what was and lean into what is.  To accept this beautiful child exactly how she was without needing her to change. 

A huge weight was lifted and I saw clearly the purpose of Remy in my life. 

To raise the level of my consciousness and help me evolve. 

Then I realized, I'm probably not the only special needs mom who has these feelings. 

So I decided to share my story so other moms didn't feel so alone. 

That they could also realize their children weren't a punishment either, but instead, a gift. 

So here I am. 

Messy, chaotic but sharing my truth 

This journey is hard. There's so many bumps in the road. But our kids are blessings. 

We just have to go on the journey with them and see the miracle that they are. 

Now, Tell me about you.
Wanna know my biggest autism/specialneeds parenting advice? ⁠
⁠
Find your people.⁠
⁠
What do I mean?⁠
⁠
A common DM I get is a version of this.⁠
⁠
"my son was just diagnosed with autism. I'm not sure what to do. It's all so overwhelming. what advice do you have?"⁠
⁠
Connect with others who've been down this path or are walking it alongside you.⁠
⁠
Your gonna learn about all the things from the internet, medical professionals, teachers, and experts.⁠
We need those people in our journey.⁠
⁠
But no one will "get" you like other people running the same marathon.⁠
⁠
and no one is going to have the kind of experience like what you need more than the parents. ⁠
⁠
Wonder where you'll find "your people?"⁠
⁠
Follow the big accounts on social media. You'll learn a lot from them.⁠
⁠
But the real gold lies in the comment section of those big accounts.⁠
⁠
Those are your people.⁠
⁠
Look for the comments from people who share their experiences. The moms who have adult children. The moms who give advice. The mom's who send encouragement.⁠
⁠
You'll get a sense of their heart based on the comments they leave.⁠
⁠
Follow the ones whose perspectives appeal to you.⁠
⁠
You won't get through this journey without the kind of support that only those who wear your shoes wear.⁠
⁠
When you connect to your peeps, You'll meet your soul sisters. The ones who will message you when you have an IEP. The ones who will pray for you when your child is struggling. The ones who've also struggled in their marriage. ⁠
⁠
They'll share their stories and give you advice. They'll be your tribe.⁠
⁠
Going about this alone is the worst mistake you can make.⁠
⁠
There's not one thought, fear, or question you have that everyone else hasn't had to. And when you connect to those people, you'll have the strength you need to get through all the bumps in the road.⁠
⁠
So do this for me. Go check out some of my posts. Pay attention to the comment section. Follow those amazing mamas and introduce yourself in their dms.⁠
⁠
You'll see exactly what I mean. there's nothing better than this community. ⁠
⁠
What's your biggest specialneeds parenting advice? let me know in the comments. ⁠
⁠
Your people will find you there.
This is for you mamas whose heart broke in half when they told you your child has autism. ⁣⁣
⁣
To the mom who feels like karma struck your child because of something terrible You must have done.⁣⁣
⁣
To the mom whose worst nightmare came true when you heard that there is no cure. ⁣⁣
⁣
To the mama who doesn't have support, experience, help or guidance on raising a child as complex as yours. ⁣⁣
⁣
To the mom whose scared and sad and stressed because every minute of the day you are reminded of how much you're failing at just about everything. ⁣⁣
⁣
I want you to hear me when I say ⁣⁣
⁣
You are doing great. You are exactly where you need to be. You are THE person for this job. Your child was sent to YOU because there is something that only you can give.⁣⁣
⁣
No one will love your child like you. No one would be quicker to die for your child than you. No one can see the preciousness of your child the way you can. ⁣⁣
⁣
You may not have the support, resources, knowledge, patience, money or wisdom to give your child what you want. ⁣⁣
⁣
But let me tell you something⁣⁣
⁣
That love you have for your child will move mountains even when you can't imagine how. That love you have will find support. That love will gain wisdom. That love will find the money. That love will carry you every step of the way.⁣⁣
⁣
And just when you feel completely defeated and can't go on, your child will give you that look that only she can give and your heart will melt. ⁣⁣
⁣
Your child will do something shes never done before and you will fall to your knees in gratitude and amazement. ⁣⁣
⁣
Your child is a miracle and you have a front row seat to see Gods most beautiful creation. ⁣⁣

I know its hard, I know its lonely, I know you're tired. But you are your child's biggest blessing and that is a pretty special place to be.⁣⁣

One day you'll see that autism is not a curse. It's a blessing. The ride is just a little bumpy.
⁣

Chin up mama, tomorrow is a new day.⁣⁣
⁣
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Recent Instagram Posts

Don't be afraid to share your story because of what someone might say on the internet.⁠
⁠
You want to share your truth, but something stops you. ⁠
⁠
Fear.⁠
⁠
Fear that someone might judge you. Fear that someone might say something. Fear that your story isn't good enough, or you won't have the right words. Fear that someone isn't going to like you.⁠
⁠
 Do you know why I'm saying this? Because every day I see the DM's ⁠
⁠
"I'm so scared to talk about my journey. I don't want people to judge me. I'm not really good at writing. I don't have the right terminology. I don't want to offend anyone. I don't want people to hate me."⁠
⁠
Someone (a lot of someones) needs to hear what you have to say. Someone right now is struggling with the exact thing you've gone through. Someone right now, at this very moment, is hoping they arent alone. Someone right now is about to give up and needs to know they can do it. ⁠
⁠
Can you imagine if you had a cure for cancer but didn't want to give it to a dying patient because you were scared they might not like your shoes? Or because you didn't brush your teeth? Or that you delivered the cure in a brown paper bag?⁠
⁠
Um, the answer is NO. They wouldn't care about any of those things. I promise you, with all of my heart, they would do nothing but thank you. ⁠
⁠
IF someone said something nasty to you after you shared your heart, just remember this. ⁠
⁠
 Hurt people, hurt people. ⁠
⁠
Their comment says more about them than it does about you. ⁠
⁠
Wayne Dyer has this analogy that I love. ⁠
⁠
 If you squeeze an orange, what would come out? ⁠
⁠
Orange juice, of course. ⁠
⁠
Would lemonade come out? How about Diet Coke?⁠
⁠
Of course not. ⁠
⁠
Orange juice comes out because that's what's inside. ⁠
⁠
So if you're worried about what someone might say, they will say what's inside them—nothing more, nothing less. ⁠
⁠
 There's someone who NEEDS to hear YOUR story. Who needs to know they aren't alone. ⁠
⁠
I dare you to share. Even when you're scared. ⁠
⁠
 Have you ever worried about getting judged online? ⁠
⁠
Save this post for the next time your scared to post your story. You've got this⁠
⁠
⁠
You know why you were tagged in this post?

Because someone wants you to know that you are incredible. 

You may not realize it, but you are an inspiration. 

Even when you feel like you're at the end of your rope. Even when you feel like you weren't cut out for this autism mom life. 

People around you are inspired by you. 

How you stay up all night just to rock your child.

How you drive across town to find that one milkshake from that one restaurant. 

How you just know what your child is saying even when they aren't telling you. 

How you research and find the very best therapy instead of watching TV or going out with your friends. 

How you question the doctors when they dismiss your concerns. 

How you cancel your vacation because your child doesn't feel good. 

How you sit and watch your child sleep before you even have dinner. 

How you send a message to another mom who's struggling just to tell her it's going to be ok. 

How you make your child a totally different meal because you know he doesn't eat what you're eating. 

How you worry if your child will make friends. 

How you would die for your child in a drop of a hat.

You're sensational. 
 
I've never seen a person love someone so hard. 

How do you do it?

I want you to know that even though it may feel lonely sometimes, there's someone (me) who thinks you are doing a  pretty damn good job. And your kinda-sorta incredible.  

Keep being amazing. You're doing great. 

Now if you haven’t done so already, tag your friend who needs to know that she’s pretty spectacular

⁣
.⁣
.⁣
.⁣
.⁣
.⁣
#specialeducationteachers #autismspectrumdisorder #autisticgirl #autismparent #autismawareness #mentalhealth #supportautism #autismmama #autismadvocate #autismfamily #autismmotherhood #mom #autism #specialneedsmom #sped #autismmommy #teacher #autismmoms #adhd #specialeducation #asd #specialneedsfamily #momslife #specialneeds #spedteacher #speechtherapy #autismsupport #autismkids #autismmom #autismlove
Do you ever see another child and wish your child was that smart? Or that athletic? Or that outgoing? Or that... Normal?

If only Remy could talk like Madison. Or make friends like Emma can. Or tell me about her day, Just like Riley. 

Moms do this all the time. But special needs moms take it to another level. We don't just compare our kids to neurotypicals, we do it with other special needs kids as well. 

When Remy was first diagnosed with autism, she went to a specialneeds playgroup. I looked around at the kids singing at circle time. Remy didn't participate. She was running around the room, knocking over all the toys from the shelves. She climbing on the table throwing crayons. 

I thought, "I wish she were like the other kids. She's got more challenges than any kid in here."

I didn't want to feel that way but I did. 

I just wanted Remys life to be easier. Because the pain of their struggle hurts too much. 

So let me tell you something I do now when thoughts of jealousy come up for me. 

I recognize that voice in my head saying "I wish Remy could (fill in the blank)" and turn it around by sending a silent blessing. 

"I'm so glad Emma is able to sit quietly with her mom. Maybe one day Remy will do that too. I'm so excited that Alyson joined the soccer team. Makes me wonder if that's possible for Remy one day. "

And when I start to feel envy of a neurotyoucal child who just learned how to read at age 3, I say "wow, Sydneys so smart, I hope she grows up to be a doctor who treats medically fragile children. I hope one day she becomes a scientist and studies autism and how to improve autistics lives"

Sending blessings and doesn't come naturally. You have to force those thoughts. And the reminder to do so, comes the minute you start to feel envious. 

And when you do this enough times, you start to see other kids gifts as blessings and you start to see the strengths in your own child too. 

This special needs mom stuff isn't easy. There's a lot of feelings and struggles to work out. But taking little baby steps at a time will become big mountains you'll have climbed. 

so next time you feel envious, send a blessing 

Do you struggle with this too?
I want to introduce myself and tell you a little about who I am and why I'm here on Instagram in this way. 

I am half black and half white. I was raised by my white grandparents and grew up in a house and community where I was always the different one. 

I never quite fit into any group. And got used to people trying to "figure me out."

Constantly feeling like an outsider, I grew to have an immense amount of empathy for people who were different. 

I connect to people who don't feel like they quite fit in. 

Fast forward to motherhood, I had 2 boys and was a typical mom doing the typical mom things. 

Then baby Remy was born. Anything but typical. She had a seizure when she was 9 months old  doctors scratching their head. Never seen a child who rejected all the medication and had hundreds of seizures at a time. 

After doing testing, they discovered she had a rare seizure disorder called pcdh19. 

Reading the prognosis online, I was shattered. This was going to be a lifelong disorder.

I blamed God for giving me a child that I had to watch suffer over and over. I thought He was cursing me. 

After 3 years of weekly seizure cluster and an autism diagnosis, I didn't know how I was going to survive the trauma. 

I didn't want to get out of bed and felt like I was living in hell.

I decided to go on a spiritual journey to Help me process the struggle. 

I realized, I needed to let go and surrender. To stop resisting what was and lean into what is.  To accept this beautiful child exactly how she was without needing her to change. 

A huge weight was lifted and I saw clearly the purpose of Remy in my life. 

To raise the level of my consciousness and help me evolve. 

Then I realized, I'm probably not the only special needs mom who has these feelings. 

So I decided to share my story so other moms didn't feel so alone. 

That they could also realize their children weren't a punishment either, but instead, a gift. 

So here I am. 

Messy, chaotic but sharing my truth 

This journey is hard. There's so many bumps in the road. But our kids are blessings. 

We just have to go on the journey with them and see the miracle that they are. 

Now, Tell me about you.
Wanna know my biggest autism/specialneeds parenting advice? ⁠
⁠
Find your people.⁠
⁠
What do I mean?⁠
⁠
A common DM I get is a version of this.⁠
⁠
"my son was just diagnosed with autism. I'm not sure what to do. It's all so overwhelming. what advice do you have?"⁠
⁠
Connect with others who've been down this path or are walking it alongside you.⁠
⁠
Your gonna learn about all the things from the internet, medical professionals, teachers, and experts.⁠
We need those people in our journey.⁠
⁠
But no one will "get" you like other people running the same marathon.⁠
⁠
and no one is going to have the kind of experience like what you need more than the parents. ⁠
⁠
Wonder where you'll find "your people?"⁠
⁠
Follow the big accounts on social media. You'll learn a lot from them.⁠
⁠
But the real gold lies in the comment section of those big accounts.⁠
⁠
Those are your people.⁠
⁠
Look for the comments from people who share their experiences. The moms who have adult children. The moms who give advice. The mom's who send encouragement.⁠
⁠
You'll get a sense of their heart based on the comments they leave.⁠
⁠
Follow the ones whose perspectives appeal to you.⁠
⁠
You won't get through this journey without the kind of support that only those who wear your shoes wear.⁠
⁠
When you connect to your peeps, You'll meet your soul sisters. The ones who will message you when you have an IEP. The ones who will pray for you when your child is struggling. The ones who've also struggled in their marriage. ⁠
⁠
They'll share their stories and give you advice. They'll be your tribe.⁠
⁠
Going about this alone is the worst mistake you can make.⁠
⁠
There's not one thought, fear, or question you have that everyone else hasn't had to. And when you connect to those people, you'll have the strength you need to get through all the bumps in the road.⁠
⁠
So do this for me. Go check out some of my posts. Pay attention to the comment section. Follow those amazing mamas and introduce yourself in their dms.⁠
⁠
You'll see exactly what I mean. there's nothing better than this community. ⁠
⁠
What's your biggest specialneeds parenting advice? let me know in the comments. ⁠
⁠
Your people will find you there.
This is for you mamas whose heart broke in half when they told you your child has autism. ⁣⁣
⁣
To the mom who feels like karma struck your child because of something terrible You must have done.⁣⁣
⁣
To the mom whose worst nightmare came true when you heard that there is no cure. ⁣⁣
⁣
To the mama who doesn't have support, experience, help or guidance on raising a child as complex as yours. ⁣⁣
⁣
To the mom whose scared and sad and stressed because every minute of the day you are reminded of how much you're failing at just about everything. ⁣⁣
⁣
I want you to hear me when I say ⁣⁣
⁣
You are doing great. You are exactly where you need to be. You are THE person for this job. Your child was sent to YOU because there is something that only you can give.⁣⁣
⁣
No one will love your child like you. No one would be quicker to die for your child than you. No one can see the preciousness of your child the way you can. ⁣⁣
⁣
You may not have the support, resources, knowledge, patience, money or wisdom to give your child what you want. ⁣⁣
⁣
But let me tell you something⁣⁣
⁣
That love you have for your child will move mountains even when you can't imagine how. That love you have will find support. That love will gain wisdom. That love will find the money. That love will carry you every step of the way.⁣⁣
⁣
And just when you feel completely defeated and can't go on, your child will give you that look that only she can give and your heart will melt. ⁣⁣
⁣
Your child will do something shes never done before and you will fall to your knees in gratitude and amazement. ⁣⁣
⁣
Your child is a miracle and you have a front row seat to see Gods most beautiful creation. ⁣⁣

I know its hard, I know its lonely, I know you're tired. But you are your child's biggest blessing and that is a pretty special place to be.⁣⁣

One day you'll see that autism is not a curse. It's a blessing. The ride is just a little bumpy.
⁣

Chin up mama, tomorrow is a new day.⁣⁣
⁣
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